The death of the two sons of Aaron remains one of the great mysteries in Torah narrative. Midrash and the commentators offer various explanations as to the cause of this tragedy: the sons did not want to marry, they had drunk wine and were inebriated, and other faults were ascribed to them. Since the work of the priests was so holy, they deserved to die. However, this is a difficult way to explain—if human beings can ever explain—why bad things happen to good people.
Some commentators see the deaths as retribution against Aaron himself for his role in allowing the Golden Calf to be created, causing the Jewish people to be seen in such a hideous fashion immediately after receiving the Torah. The problem with this explanation is that we learn that the sins of the father are not to be visited upon the children, nor the sins of the children to be visited upon their parents. Because of these difficulties, no matter what type of explanation we wish to explore, it seems to me that the response of Aaron to this tragedy is really the only response that human beings can make. That response is silence.
Aaron does not say anything and, in that silence, there is
an acceptance of the fact that the judgment of heaven is always inscrutable to
humans. Despite our best efforts and the wisdom of our commentaries, many times
in life the question remains stronger than any potential answer that can be
offered—and this itself draws the line between the Creator and the created,
between heaven and earth.
While we would naturally like to be able to understand
everything, it is basically hubris on the part of human beings to assume that they
can figure everything out for themselves. You will notice that this trait is
ever-present within young children, who want to do everything on their own, and
who believe that they can. This human trait has a positive side to it because
it allows us to be creative and inventive, to attempt new things, and to gain
new insights into life. However, it also has drawbacks. We eventually run up
against a wall of ideas that we do not understand and which, to our mind, are
irrational and even unjustified. We are, therefore, left in confusion and
disappointment. The only solution is silence, acceptance, and, so to speak, to
be able to move on even if we do not understand the events themselves.
Whenever there is a major crisis in our lives and in our
society, there will be many who will assign reasons and causes for its
occurrence. However, whatever reasons and whatever ideas are assigned, these will
eventually be found wanting on the scale of human judgment and rational
understanding. We must accept events for what they are and attempt to move on.
Just as Aaron did, we will move forward and accept the judgment of heaven and
renew ourselves in the service of God and of Israel.
Shabbat Shalom, Rabbi Berel Wein