This piece was first posted on Hanassi Highlights, Thursday 11 November 2026. You can also read it in Hebrew, thanks to ChatGpT, here.
One of the great mysteries of Parshat Toledot is how two brothers, born to the same parents and raised in the same home, could have turned out so differently. The Torah tells us:
“When the boys grew up, Esav became a skilful hunter, a man of the field, while Yaakov was a quiet man, dwelling in tents" (Bereishit 25:27).
Yaakov would become the father of Am Yisrael, while Esav would take a very different path. How could two children, brought up with the same values and the same opportunities, have developed in such radically different directions? After all, both were grandsons of Avraham Avinu, growing up in a home dedicated to the service of Hashem. Surely, if any family could be expected to pass on its values successfully to the next generation, it would be theirs.
Rav Shimshon Raphael Hirsch offers a remarkable interpretation. He suggests that the words "when the boys grew up" contain the key to understanding what happened. Their very different personalities and inclinations became apparent as they matured, but perhaps those differences should have been recognised and nurtured much earlier.
Rav Hirsch suggests that the same educational approach was not necessarily appropriate for both children. Yaakov was naturally suited to a life of study and contemplation. Esav possessed different strengths: energy, courage, and a desire for action.
Right: Jacob and Esau, by Giovanni Andrea de Ferrari (undated)
Had those qualities been recognised and channelled towards Avodat Hashem, perhaps Esav's story would have ended differently. Perhaps the two brothers could have stood together, each contributing his unique strengths to the spiritual legacy of their family.
We should be cautious about drawing conclusions regarding the actions of our Avot. Our purpose is not to pass judgment on Yitzchak and Rivka, but to learn from the profound educational message that Rav Hirsch draws from the Torah's account. It is a powerful interpretation of the words of Mishlei (22:6): "Educate a child according to his way."
True education is not about imposing a single mould upon every child. Each person possesses different talents, different strengths, and a different personality. Our responsibility is to recognise those differences and help each individual develop their potential in the service of Hashem.
Importantly, this does not mean compromising on the values we seek to transmit. The goal remains the same, even if the path towards it may differ. Indeed, recognising those differences may be precisely what enables our shared values to take root and flourish.
As we aim to ensure the transmission of our mesorah from one generation to the next, our task is not to produce identical copies of ourselves, but to ensure that the values we hold dear continue to live on in future generations of the Jewish people.
Shabbat Shalom!
You can also read "The Quiet Strength of Continuity", Rabbi Kenigsberg's parashah piece for Toledot last year, here.















